Surprise! Courtship Is Trending Again

The pendulum is starting to swing back the other way – Couple enjoying an engaged conversation at a coffee shop, illustrating modern courtship and dating advice for building more of today’s modern day daters are keeping their pants on longer, as they explore early relationships, bringing a BIG smile to the face of this personal matchmaker and dating coach.

In the 25 years that I’ve been bringing couples together, I’ve never had a female client call me on a Monday morning to say, “Darn, I wish I’d slept with that guy!” Truly… and can you imagine how many times I’ve had to console women who DID sleep with that guy? That guy who later vanished or kicked her to the curb, leaving her holding a bag full of what’s left of her self-respect and dignity? Leaving her with a body charged with copious amounts of oxytocin and no one to share her love with? The solution is to bring back courtship, and finally, I’m seeing that it’s happening…

One of my current female clients is currently exploring possibilities with two men, both of whom are hot on her trail. She’s on Date Number Five with each. Both want her, both are super attracted and eager to move things along toward the bedroom, and both are hinting at wanting her to be exclusive. Should she reveal to both suitors that there’s another in the picture?

Julie Ferman, Professional Matchmaker
Written by Julie Ferman

Professional Matchmaker & Dating Coach since 1990 with 1,400+ Success Story Couples and four iDate Best Matchmaker Awards. Featured on Dr. Phil, GMA, The Today Show, WSJ, NYT, and LA Times. Host of the Cupid’s Coach Podcast — ranked top 5% globally.