The Perils of Falling for Your Matchmaker

I just took the wedding band off,” Carly Spindel said nonchalantly, when we met at a Midtown café on a recent afternoon. “But in business meetings,” she added, having just come from work, “I always wear one.Professional matchmaker in pink dress sitting at desk with laptop, surrounded by wedding planning materials and framed

As a professional matchmaker, Ms. Spindel, who is decidedly unwedded, spends the majority of her waking hours wading through the gritty details of desire. On telephone calls with potential clients and daily simulated dates throughout the city, countless men, and some women, reveal to her their most deep-seated and peculiar relationship needs in the way a patient might divulge his or her unfiltered feelings to a psychotherapist.

There was, Ms. Spindel recounted in a manner somewhat clinical, the client who asked for a blonde, blue-eyed version of Kim Kardashian, “but a size zero.” (Who wouldn’t?) There was the guy who wanted someone “sexy like Angelina Jolie, but also sultry like Mila Kunis,” with a size-26 waist and breasts that would fill a D cup. (Your standard woman.) And don’t forget the man who requested an African-American professor from Harvard who looked like Halle Berry. (Don’t they all?) Click here to read full article ..

Julie Ferman, Professional Matchmaker
Written by Julie Ferman

Professional Matchmaker & Dating Coach for three decades with 1,400+ Success Story Couples and four iDate Best Matchmaker Awards. Featured on Dr. Phil, GMA, The Today Show, WSJ, NYT, and LA Times. Host of the Cupid’s Coach Podcast — ranked top 5% globally.