Why ‘Love At First Sight’ Is A Foolish Way To Find ‘The One’

Why “slow love” is so much sexier than “swiping right.”

Have you ever wondered if you’ve possibly missed opportunities to date someone REALLY great simply because they didn’t dramatically strike your fancy at first glance?



I’m here to tell you … you’ve probably missed out on some wonderful  potential partners. And likely, plenty of great people also overlooked  you!

I recently read a New York Times article that highlighted how fatal of a mistake it is for single men and women to limit their love prospects only to those who  instantly elicit a dramatic, romantic response upon that very first peek.

After many years as a personal matchmaker and dating coach, I see firsthand why it’s smart to look outside the arena of “It Girls” and “It Guys.”

Everyone who’s dating in today’s wacky world grew up with the media, and we’ve all been trained by decades of magazines, billboards, and screens (both, large and handheld) to go for “the Clooneys” and “the Angelinas.”

But, how often does someone fall in love at first sight with someone who looks like that? Oh … maybe a hundred times a day … and does that kind of attention (and stalking) breed heart, soul and rock solid character? Sadly, in my experience, I’d say it’s rare. If you are waiting to fall in love with someone who grabs you visually from the get-go … continue reading.. 

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